Suicides d'hommes: Ne communiquent-ils pas ou ne les écoutons-nous pas?

Suicides of men: Do they not communicate or listen to them?

The people who take their lives the most are men, although women are the ones who try the most without success. In 40% of countries, more than 15 suicides were recorded per 100,000 men and only 1.5% have a higher rate among women. This was documented by the World Health Organization in its latest report regarding this scourge that takes a person's life every 40 seconds.

In the United States alone, the rate of suicide attempts among adult women is 1.2 times higher than that of men, but men make it to death more effectively because they use more violent methods.

So, for example, in Australia, men are three times more likely to die by suicide; 3.5 times in the United States and more than four times in Russia and Argentina.

One of the most relevant risk factors is the lack of communication, because if women learn from an early age to be more emotional and expressive; men are told that they must be strong and not show their feelings. From an early age, we condition children not to express their emotions because it represents "a sign of weakness". Other factors that incite suicide are economic problems, identity crises and feelings of isolation.

But there is another interpretation that goes to the genre roles and the stigmata that underscore that the man is not being heard when he ultimately asks for help because his vulnerability is not credible or simply grounds for mock.

According to the gender analyst and author of the book "Dehumanize Man", Daniel Jim, not all suicides are due to the same cause, but it cannot be denied either that there are conditions that increase the likelihood of committing it. "We know for example that the suicide rate of men after divorce is eight times higher than that of women under the same circumstances." Jim asserts that in this case, there is little compassion awake by the men who are divorce in the gender-driven, who like other men continue to make them see themselves as oppressive beings who deserve the luck they have found.

The analyst expresses that "at present the company does not seem ready to take off the bandage and extend to men the same compassion it shows towards women. However, starting to talk about it is the first step in a long way to go. »

Only between 1% and 2% of those trying to commit suicide do so after the first three months after the emotional crisis, according to Ana Gabriela García Fernández, a counselor at the Psychology Unit of Mexico City, when everyone believes the danger is past; And only between 10% and 20% will do so at some point in their life. It is therefore important to observe the person.

For both sexes, these are the main risk factors:

Family violence, sexual abuse, depression, anxiety, use/abuse of psychoactive substances, school intimation, heartbreak, terminal illnesses, television series in which suicides/fictional challenges appear on the Internet, family members with anteas Praise clues or directly threaten suicide. Pains about being a bad person or feeling unbearable. Has a low level of self-esteem: refusal to congratulate or reward. Provides the most valuable goods to others. Presents persistent concern for researching, having and sharing music, people's thoughts, images or virtual communities alluding to death or the idea of suicide Presence of suicide notes of thanks, farewell, apology and anger.

How to help a person at risk:

Take seriously what you say. Listen with real interest and treat with respect. Explain that alternatives are available. Do not promise confidentiality. Look for help among relatives and close or important people. Take practical measures: remove or control all items that may present a risk. Ensure that the person concerned remains accompanied. Contact a psychology professional or a topic specialist. The most effective prevention is early identification and treatment. Emotions and feelings send us constant signals that we do not always hear

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