Healthy masculinity: the real forces of man

"It's time to evolve and go beyond the male ideal, all determination and nothing from the heart. It is also time to evolve and go beyond the ideal of the warm, sensitive and loving man, all heart and without determination. The heart and determination must unite in the same man, and then go further in expressing the fullest possible love and consciousness, which requires deep relaxation in the infinite opening of the present moment. This is expressed in David Deida's book in his book The Way of the Higher Man.

And from that, we can highlight some of the features that highlight what a healthy male identity looks like and what aspects it should take into account. The dialogue is always open. According to Colombian expert Caesar Moya, these are some of the fundamental characteristics of healthy masculinity

I appreciate the feminine.

It is customary for male identity to try to form by refusing to identify with this Considered feminine and, therefore, men maintain throughout their lives a struggle against female characteristics that may exist in themselves, in order to preserve their masculinity. Healthy male identity must learn to appreciate and internalize the feminine. You must lose the fear of maintaining your identity with the mother, and recognize that at first your identity was feminine, given the relationship, a kind of symbiosis, which linked you to that one; and he must not learn male identity by rethrowing the feminine that was forged by his mother. A healthy male identity must be detached from the negative stereotypes that have been Feminine to despize him.

Take on the roles according to the context.

Social coexistence throughout history has prescribed different roles for both men and women. If a man performs the functions that society has stereotypeted as characteristics of women, his masculinity is questioned. Healthy male identity will develop functions based on the needs of the context and not because of stereotypes imposed by patriarchal society. That being the case, a man can develop roles that have been socially assigned to women, and vice versa, many women will develop roles that have been socially assigned to men. Masculinity therefore does not consist in filling or not fulfilling certain roles. It consists in the exercise of roles which, according to the needs of the cultural context, tend to generate relations of equity and justice.